Colby’s idea of Marriage and Finding
the “One”
I have always been skeptical on the
idea of marriage; don’t get me wrong I’ve always wanted to find the woman of my
dreams but the idea of marriage as a government recognized institution is
something that doesn’t sit well. I grew up in a divorced household which may
result in my biased mentality but I believe that marriage is almost irrelevant
nowadays other than the tax breaks and shared insurance. As I read this chapter
on marriage it only reassured my ideas on marriage about divorce and a huge
commitment like that must be really considered for the long run. I can see why
cohabitants rather than marriage is on the rise because people don’t like the
commitment but want to live together and begin to know each other. The idea of
having children has always been in my future and I do believe marriage as a
stable ground to raise children. I wouldn’t want a broken house raise children
in, but a wife of my children to be there and to work as a team. I believe
marriage in America, of course it is still relative, is an option rather than a
goal especially in this day of age. In one of the essays they provide evidence
that us as humans have no biological evidence that we should be monogamous but
that is only a social thing.
I disagree because as humans we are filled with emotions and depend on one
another for stability. If we go throughout our lives going on to different
people rather than beginning a live long journey with someone than you won’t be
as emotionally open because as humans we are naturally selfish and jealous of
what we had. I do believe in the idea of short term marriages if that is what
you want and don’t want to fully commit. Takes a long time before you actually
know someone and that can key into a short term marriage especially if you need
the benefits that come with marriage. I
would take time to know that person and contemplate a long lasting relationship
with that person and ultimately if I would want to start a family with that
person before I decided to marry them and if I do take that leap of faith than I
am fully committed because if something is broken you fix it. For children
being in a broken household is a battleground of emotions and not fully
comprehending what is happening. I do believe that marriage is having a crisis
in America because people are getting married to young, commitment is a tough subject
for people and people are getting married because their heart says to. My
parents got divorced when I was 2 after knowing each other for 3 years and when
I was 12 they decided to get back together because they had me and they realized
that love, stability and trust are what makes a marriage work. Relying on that
other person, working together through emotions and tough times and having a
common goal is what makes marriage so great. I do believe in marriage and I know
once I find a girl who will be my partner in crime and she relies on me as much
as I know I will her I know it will happen.
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